In clinical psychology, identity erasure is a form of coercive control often utilized by individuals with narcissistic & high control traits. It is a systematic process designed to dismantle a partner’s autonomy, sense of self, and external support systems to ensure total psychological dependency.

Malibu reminded me that the real me thrives in spaciousness. I glow when I am not walking on eggshells. I rise when I am not shrinking myself to keep someone else from spiraling.

Absence that feels… peaceful. That’s how it goes when someone’s energy no longer matches your life. It’s not always a fight. Sometimes it’s just a fade.

31 — you’ve outgrown the spaces that make you question your worth. you’ve learned that love without effort isn’t love, it’s comfort. and comfort will keep you small if you let it. you are not meant to chase what resists you. the next chapter of your life isn’t about proving how good your heart is. it’s about protecting it. release the people who only show up when it’s convenient. release the ones who confuse consistency for control. release the situations that drain your glow

You don’t have to stay in something that makes you unhappy just because outsiders think it’s the “right” thing to do. It’s not selfish to walk away from something that’s draining you.

Living unedited means alignment—no more shrinking, no more masks. When your inner world and outer life match, you move with flow, ease, and glow

You were not meant to fit neatly into the space someone else made for you. You were meant to create your own.Self love is not just affirmations and bubble baths. It is the quiet decision to stop apologizing for who you are when you are being your truest self.