You’re Just Disconnected

There might come a time in your life when you start to feel confused.

Disconnected.

Even though, on the outside, everything looks picture-perfect.

You’ve built this life, the one you were supposed to want.

So why doesn’t it feel like enough?

Have we become ungrateful?

A spoiled generation always chasing the next best thing, never satisfied?

We start wondering:

What’s missing?

What’s wrong with me?

Am I in alignment?

Why don’t I feel real, alive, authentic?

And before anything else needs to be said, let this be clear:

You come first.

You need to be grounded within yourself. Comfortable alone. Whole on your own. No one else is here to complete you, that work is yours and yours alone.

Being whole, however, doesn’t mean being disconnected.

And still, regardless of how much work we’ve done, how aligned we think we are, there may come a time when we begin questioning everything. What we really want. What we even like. Who we even are. What we have suddenly doesn’t feel like enough, no matter how grateful we are.

So we start searching.

Different things.

Different experiences.

More stimulation.

More answers.

Willing to try anything just to feel something real.

But what we don’t realize is that what we’re truly craving, what’s throwing us off, making everything feel like it’s not enough, is simply the desire for connection.

Real.

Deep.

Meaningful connection.

This isn’t about dependency.

This isn’t about needing someone to fill a void you haven’t faced yourself.

This is about the human need to share life in a real, magnificent way.

Maybe there was a time you felt that connection, strongly and now you feel nothing.

Maybe you never truly felt it at all, but everything else made sense, so you ignored it.

The problem is we don’t realize that this emptiness so many people experience, this “midlife crisis,” this quiet dissatisfaction isn’t because we haven’t truly found ourselves. It’s because we’ve accepted lives filled with surface-level relationships.

We confuse independence with isolation.

Strength with emotional distance.

Being “fine on our own” with never letting anyone truly in.

So instead of deepening connection, we assume something else is missing.

We spiral. We overthink. We ask how to feel alive again, how to feel whole. Maybe life needs more spice. So we try new things and yes, they’re fun, exciting even but still… nothing. Because stimulation isn’t the same as intimacy.

What’s missing isn’t more.

What’s missing is depth.

Connection isn’t something you chase to save yourself.

It’s something you allow once you’ve already chosen yourself.

You can be grounded, self-aware, independent and still crave meaningful connection. In fact, the healthiest connections come from people who don’t need each other, but choose each other.

What you’re craving isn’t another experience.

It’s connection with another human being, romantic or platonic, where conversations go deeper, where you feel seen, understood, safe. Where presence replaces performance.

So instead of running, instead of trying everything and confusing yourself even more, pause.

Ask yourself:

Where in my life have I accepted surface-level relationships?

Where have I settled for convenience instead of depth?

Where can connection be strengthened, in friendship, in love, in community?

And then make a choice.

Either accept a life filled with shallow connections…

or do the brave thing and say no to anything that doesn’t allow you to be fully yourself.

And when you find real connection, protect it.

Not because you need it to survive,

but because it adds richness to a life you’ve already built.

Get the right tools.

Communicate.

Be present.

Do the work.

Stop questioning your worth, your identity, your masculinity, your femininity, all of it. The issue was never that something was wrong with you.

It’s that depth has been replaced with distraction.

Connection doesn’t complete you.

It expands you.

And a full life isn’t lived alone,

it’s lived with people who truly know you.

Connection is the answer, not as a replacement for self-love, but as a natural extension of it.

Everything else is just noise.

A life lived without real connection.

Did you live, or did you just exist?

Choose you. Every time.

Nanette