But Were They Ever Really Your Friend?

Some of us make friends young and stay connected for life. Others find new friendships in different seasons and chapters. But one thing most people overlook is how important it is to have the right friends in your life.

We assume that because they’re friends, they won’t hurt us, not like a romantic partner could. We look for red flags in love, but rarely in friendship.

But the truth is: we’re often more vulnerable with friends than with anyone else. We tell them everything. We feel safe. We let our guard down completely. So when a friend betrays us, it can hit even harder than a breakup. It’s not just hurt, it’s disappointment. It’s shock. It’s: How could they? You never saw it coming.

The worst part? You might still have to sit across from them at a mutual friend’s gathering, pretending everything’s fine, while they continue to throw shade, just because you had the courage to cut them off.

But boundaries are for everyone. Even friends. If someone has done you wrong, cutting them off doesn’t make you a bad person, it means you respect yourself.

A real friend would never tear you down behind your back. They’d never let loyalty slip just because you're not in the room.

So if you’re questioning a friendship, trust your gut. The quicker you see the signs, the easier it is to walk away. It’s okay if your circle gets smaller, you’re just making room for people who actually deserve to be there. You’re removing the poison, cutting out the snakes. 🐍

Because at the end of the day, nothing stings like a fake friend.

And as I always say: I’d rather be alone than surrounded by the wrong people.

Choose you. Every time.

Nanette