Wounded Feminine vs. Divine Feminine

Whenever you are out & around other women, you have probably noticed two different vibes: the Divine and the Wounded. Understanding these states is not about judging anyone. It is about being honest with yourself so you can feel more confident and relaxed. Understanding yourself, and others, will help you heal and reconnect to your inner divine feminine energy, and thus, be able to surround yourself with other divine feminine women.

Wounded Feminine vs. Divine Feminine

In every conversation, there is a hidden feeling that decides how we treat each other. We hear about feminine energy a lot, but seeing the difference between these two sides is the secret to protecting your peace. Choosing to heal the wounded parts of ourselves is the best thing a woman can do for her own happiness.

What is the Divine Feminine?

The Divine Feminine is a state of mind where you feel like there is plenty of success, beauty, confidence ,etc. to go around. When a woman is in this mindset/ headspace/ energy, people are naturally drawn to her. She does not need to yell to be heard or put others down to feel important because she is comfortable with who she is. She looks at other women as friends. She knows that if someone else wins, it does not mean she is losing. She is the woman who helps others out and stays calm even when things get messy. She truly believes that everyone can be successful at the same time.

What is the Wounded Feminine?

The Wounded Feminine is a state where you feel like you are never enough. This energy usually comes from past hurts or the fear that there is only one "top spot" available. It is a defense mechanism that ends up making you feel lonely and stuck.

When a woman is in this energy, she might act like a "Queen Bee." She might be super sweet to her boss or to men but act cold or mean to women she thinks are rivals.

Signs you might be leaning into Wounded Energy:

• Constant Comparison: You feel like another woman’s beauty or success makes you look bad.

• Needing Approval: You only feel good about yourself when you get a compliment from a man or someone in charge.

• Being "Two-Faced": You are an angel to people who can help you but a bully to people you think might outshine you.

• Finding Faults: You find yourself looking for "flaws" in other women just to make yourself feel better.

• Hiding Information: You keep tips or resources to yourself because you are afraid someone else might do a better job than you.

• Creating Drama: You use gossip or leaving people out to try and control the group.

When a woman yells at you but acts like an angel to everyone else, she is trying to make you look like the problem so she can hide her own insecurities. This behavior is a sign she needs to heal. She is just taking her own insecurities, and stress out on you.

Making the Shift

Sometimes we lose our way during a big change between seasons of life. In that gap, it is easy to look at other women and feel like you are failing. But the goal is to change how you look at it. Instead of seeing a successful woman as a threat, look at her and say, "If she can do it, so can I." Healing your feminine energy helps you stop feeling like a victim and start feeling in charge of your own life.

How to Get Your Confidence Back

In the movie Mean Girls, the "trust fall" shows what happens when girls stop fighting and start trusting each other. To protect your energy and heal, try these steps:

1. Stop Performing: Stop trying to win people over by acting like someone you are not. The moment you start faking it to fit in, you lose your true power.

2. Look at the Fear: Remember that being "perfect" is usually just a way to hide fear. When you feel the urge to be rude or competitive, ask yourself what you are actually afraid of.

3. Be Real: Like Cady at the end of the movie, you will only find peace when you stop playing the game and just be your normal, authentic self.

The Energy Check-In

Are you the woman cheering for your friends, or are you the one judging them in your head? Choosing to heal is a choice to stop living in "survival mode." Whether you have been the one being bullied or the one doing the judging, the path forward is the same.

Release, Align, Glow.

Healing is realizing that there is no limit on success. There is enough room for every woman to be beautiful and successful. When you heal, you do not need to be the only person shining. You become the person who helps everyone else shine too.